Identity Crisis

"I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Philippians 4:13 (KJV)

Let's face it; we are all different. We look different, we act different, we sound different, and often times we have different things that we have to accomplish.  Yet, we have something that trumps all of our differences. It is our love for each other. Though our love is strong, there is still a part of us that seeks individuality.  It is so important that both husband and wife have their own identity. We have to remember why we fell in love with our spouse.   It was the attraction of being different from all the others.

Balance is an important factor in persevering your identity.  Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the daily routines of life, we forget to take the time to cultivate our individual mental, spiritual and social state. By not doing this for our self, we do our spouse a disservice. The beautiful thing about marriage is that there are so many make-ups of a marriage.  You have the love that you share, you have your family dynamic, you have your occupations and hobbies that you may share, and you have the glue that binds all of these components - God.  But what happens when you lose a sense of self, forgetting who you are? 

 When we think or feel that this journey of life is too strenuous to include time for our self, we are doing our self and our spouse a disservice. You must allot time to take care of yourself. Whether it's playing ball with the guy's, taking a jog, listening to music or maybe just watching the game; whatever it is, you must make time for yourself so you can be able to fulfill the many parts of your life. Remember balance is key to achieving a great marriage.